Category Archives: Life

Gender stereotypes start early

Agency Anomaly asked children if Santa could be a woman. Their replies are quite depressing:


It really makes me despair… no surprises, then, that women still earn a lot less than men for the same job, and are less likely to go for promotions and ask for a salary raise šŸ˜¦

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Why didn’t I do this earlier?

I just completed an admin task that Iā€™ve been agonising over for 6 weeks. It took me 45 minutes. Boom.

This task came into my inbox a few days before I went on holidays, and it was meant to beĀ completed within a few days. Since then, I have read the e-mail several times. I added a note to my to do list. I even set a time in my diary to do it. But I never did it. And, of course, it has been in the back of my mind, all this time.

But, now, I finally got round to completing this task. It took me 45 minutes, which is a lot less time than I spent ‘planningĀ it’. And it was such a relief to strike this off my list, and get it out of my mind. I couldn’t help asking me: why didn’t I do this earlier?

I really should know better by now, and not procrastinate this sort of tasks. Argh.

Do you have a system / mantra / trick to get you to do those things you have to, and save your time and energy thinking about it?

When you need to say ‘No’, say this

I confess: I find it really hard to say ‘no’.

This could be because I am aĀ novelty-seeker, a trait that has served me well on some occasions but, on others, it has led to unnecessary stress and impacted negatively on my ability to deliver on what really matters.
It could also be because I am generally anĀ agreeable person,Ā whoĀ tries to help out and does not like to let others down. For instance, two days ago I received this e-mail inviting me to join an advisory group. This is a role that sounds really boring and time consuming, has very few upsides and a lot of downsides. I really do not want to say ‘yes’. Yet, I haven’t yet managed to hit the reply button and say ‘no’, because I think that this person will struggle to find someone who wants to do that job and I want to help her.

So, I was delighted to come across this list of 10 suggestions on how to say no in anĀ assertive way, taken from the book “The Black Academicā€™s Guide to Winning Tenureā€”Without Losing Your Soulā€, written by Kerry Ann Rockquemore and Tracey Laszloffy. These are my favourites:


How do you say no?

UPDATE: I just replied to that e-mail. I said no šŸ™‚

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